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Posts by cally1001

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How to deal with family situation by

Hi Winnie So sorry to hear your story. So similar to mine, we didn’t have kids thank god so I don’t know how you cope. Not going into any details as it’s all been said before if you read my messages but my ONLY advice is to run, run as far away as you can. People may say that’s not right and you should make your own decisions etc but believe me from the heart the coke has won. My divorce came through in June and I am so happy as I have no financial ties now; the man has spent in total 58k since December I kid you not I had a wonderful caring kind husband but when it got to the point he was on the couch and his nose literally coming out in a tissue and he thought I was the devil in his psychosis I realised he was gone. I don’t like to talk too much on here as it’s hard when you are going through things but if you want I can send my number and we can have a chat. It’s a very cruel drug and I would not wish it on my enemy. It gets better but it takes time a long time somprepare yourself I won’t sugar coat it.xx

by lc100

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Husbands addiction by

Hi Same happened to me as all your stories, that drug really is the devil! I will be divorced in 3 weeks, we were together 13 and married 3. Funny thing is I had no idea until he could not hide it anymore, we had a great life god jobs etc. I have since found out he did it all along and about 2.5 years ago that’s when it took hold properly. Fast forward and what I have found out; Thousands gone Lost jobs Not coming home Escorts The lies The deceit The man I loved changing into a monster Left in December was with a 20 year old 2 weeks later (he 42) and asking her to marry him???? Now with some old one with 2 kids The list goes on. I was lucky I didn’t have kids, I separated all finances so his debt is NOT my debt. I hate to say it but there are not many success stories, for your own life I would say leave!! I lost over 3 stone, hair fell out and I thought I could never cope without him as I was so co-dependent. But guess what, 6 hard difficult months later I feel so much better. I wake up and go to sleep with no stress, my life is my own, that horrible feeling in the pit of my stomach has gone, it’s wonderful. There is light at the end of the tunnel but you have to make the decision to detach and leave or if you don’t it will carry on and on and on. I wish everyone well.xx

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Cocaine husband I need some advice :-( by

Hi everyone Not been on for a long while. I will be divorced in 3 weeks ???? I would like to say things got better but they did not!! After my last post I found out he was living with a 20 year old. The girl contacted me as nothing made any sense to her what he was saying about me. She had left him and funny enough we are friends now as I have been helping her as he really played a number in her aswell. He is now with another woman about 45 so no age discrimination!! The last 6 months have been hell but with help and support I am on the other side now. Yes I am in debt, yes I have been hurt but god do I feel free!! I found out so much about what he had been up to and it sickens me to think I lived with this man but as I said above I am free now and I can honestly say I dint think of him at all, maybe passing thoughts but that’s it. Cocaine for me is the worst drug, it actually changes the person forever. What has come out if this is I am a better person, more relaxed, happy, sociable etc so although it’s wasnt a good ending for the toxic marriage it was for me. I hope everyone the best of luck but please anyone in the same situation please get out that’s my only advice. It’s not as scary as you think .xxxx

by Daisy12

4 of 17 posts

Struggling by

Excellent you are saving money, no matter how big or small it may be! It really does help writing things down. We should get together and do a book that goes to schools on why you should not take drugs it would be a bestseller???? I have always prided myself in being strong and independent and I am pissed off that I let This take over my life. We are all worth more and we need to be strong! This site is really good for us as we know we are not alone.xxxx

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Using cocaine in the house. by

Hi Thanks for reply. I have done all those things you suggest that is why i am so stuck in limbo. He has said he will remember the good times and only the best of me (that was said on a clean day) and i truly believe him. For how he treated me before all this its like chalk and cheese as i was his world. When i did see him high that was the end i suppose as he never wanted me to see that and he knew before me that it was over. I was the one begging him to come back, get help etc but he just said you will never forget it and the arguments make me look for an excuse to take more. Logically i know all this and i know it is true and i know he loves me, but the emotional part of me and my heart is just so terribly hurt and i cant see past the drugs only that my husband has left me, and i just think i could have done more (i dont know what more i could have done so i should keep thinking that, he just didnt want to stop) I am just so lost and emotional and up and down which i know everyone on here is so its good to talk to people in the same boat. I just think he knew it would not change and even if he does get better the embarrassment is too much for him as friends and family all know, i wish i had never said anything to anyone but at the time i was in shock and there is no handbook how to react. I wish i had of reacted differently when i found out but whats the point in thinking what if etc its not going to change anything. That he can just walk away like a coward and not try is what is making it hard to accept as i wanted to help but he didnt want it or was not ready for it. xx

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