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Posts by georgia26

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199 posts in 72 threads

Happening again by

yes they work - they are the ones the police use. I know it seems a bit much but honestly its worth it, if you have a suspicion test them. Oh god, honestly you sound like me.. its as though i am writing - as soon as my BF went out i went into panic mode, would call after 10 mins if he didnt answer i would have meltdown. It really affected me mentally, my anxiety was just awful.. google addiction counselling, hopefully someone can help your OH.

by Joemily

2 of 33 posts

Feeling so alone by

Hey I was in your position, its the worst thing ever.. youre not alone and i do feel for you. How long have you been together? Until he admits his problems to everyone who cares about him and seeks proper support from the doctor, the cycle will continue. He will relapse, do drugs, promise he will change/have mental health problems/cry and then relapse, this happened to me for months and months. My bf was self medicating his anxiety after a horrendous divorce. I wont go into it too much, but you really sound so naive about the situation - drinking is a trigger, its all linked. It doesnt matter how much he is doing, if hes doing 1 gram or 5 grams, hes an addict. He will REALLY want to stop and he will be ashamed, but the urge and the addiction will be too much. It took me months and months to understand and thank god i found this group as it helped me so much. Sounds bad, but he will need to hit rock bottom, something needs to happen to make him realise, him hiding it from you and his family isnt good.. I wish i had some positive advice for you, but until he admits his addiction to you this will continue.. he needs to really really want it, addiction is a disease and its so hard for someone to understand that isnt an addict. I used to get so frustrated and used to shout and scream at his but that will only make it worse and will give him an excuse to use. what you must understand is that addiction cant just be cured overnight, its a hard battle and it tears relationships apart, its heartbreaking.. but ultimatums etc, he will choose the cocaine. You need to ensure youre protecting yourself - keep yourself mentally strong and dont let this take over your life. my partner hasnt relapsed in 6 months.. he does addiction counselling, once a week, its £60 but its brilliant - it isnt a magical cure though, the person needs to WANT to give up.. or it will not work. he needs to go to the doctor and beg for help, but obviously if you arent even speaking about it then its a long road ahead, and what you need to this is, is this worth it? as it will just continue, and its mentally draining.. it made me ill but we have ties so i couldnt just leave. xx

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1 of 17 posts

Pregnancy by

You absolutely need to tell the hospital what youve done - as they may be able to do something for you. If youre having a child and youve done cocaine whilst carrying I worry about the baby really, I am not being judgemental but i dont get what must have been going through your head... what will you be like when the child actually gets here.. Not going to say too much as i dont want to make you feel bad but in my books thats an absolute no go, addict or not, harm yourself but a child - just no, seek help URGENTLY

by Danman83

1 of 5 posts

Help me understand cocaine addiction please. by

Ah Dan, Helloooo Yes it was really good - he didnt drink a drip, madness, I think the addiction counselling is actually working.. no coke relapse either, since Jan... its hard to believe as well, like i can feel my anxieties starting to chill now. How are you? how is everything going? your holiday soon isnt it? i ate way too much need to get my arse back in the gym :) i drank a bit on holiday and he wasnt bothered nice to see you pop up on here, youre so supportive of everyone its lovely x

by Danman83

2 of 7 posts

Husband with alcohol, anxiety and depression - Just needed to reach out by

bless your heart.. thats so sad. you cant blame yourself for whats happened and for leaving, you cant live like that. there is literally nothing else you can do or could have done, being the person who loves an alcoholic is so hard because its like the person has died but their shell is still here.. its horrendous i think its about time you started living and loving yourself, you need to let go.. he wont change, this will continue and yes its hard to think he will eventually kill himself by drinking but he will do that anyway - with you present, you will have no influence on this and you cannot change it. i think you need to start living your life and moving on, you deserve so much more. I wish you all the best in life, take care and get some counselling, it helped me a lot.. xxxx

by Esta

1 of 8 posts

Mother of six-month-old hiding booze by

Gosh,i really feel for you what an awful situation. She absolutely is an alcoholic - the hiding alcohol and the defensive behaviour says it all also her family history they do say it can be genetic.. You are not misreading the situation - alcoholism is a disease and usually incurable, its so heartbreaking.. they usually dont seek help until they hit rock bottom, she needs to get to the GP and get help asap. Unless she wants help, there is literally nothing you can do. You can't force her, until an addict wants to get help then it will continue. The thing that complicates this is your baby, she will know she needs help but until she really wants it this will continue, it happened to me and my partner, it took months of screaming arguments and then he got found on a park bench suicidal and finally he gave in and got help. I wish there was a straight forward answer.. I wish you all the luck with this, its so heartbreaking. We are always here for a chat if you need it x

by Danman83

1 of 6 posts

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