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Posts by mil1234


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When is it time to stop? by

Too cut the story short my mum is an alcoholic and after many years of heavy drinking that is the results of her poor mental heath she has landed herself very ill and in hospital. I'm 16 with 2 younger brothers, I also live with my granddad and dad my mum eventually got help through the GP in summer, she started horizon and they agreed that she needed detox away from home and rehab. When she went to detox on the 22nd November they said she was too ill to stay there as her liver had failed and she was extremely ill. She has know been in hospital for 7/ 8 weeks. We went to see her baring in mind she is a 2 hour drive away. We found her shouting and crying to the junior doctor saying she was discharging herself and she wasn't going to rehab. The nurses said to us that she needed a mental health assessment because she needed to be sectioned, however my mum is very manipulated and isn't stupid. Therefore, i'm concerned that she won't be sectioned and will discharge herself! So i'm on here to ask at what point to we as a family take a step and let her go. I don't want to enable her drinking as she will die and i don't want to be the reason she dies, but my mum has rights and at some point i'm going to have to take a step back because I have done everything and anything that I can do. Can someone please give me some advice i'm only 16 and I don't know what to do. This is such a struggle, crying every day I can never sleep. I have insomnia. I tell people its because of my ADHD but its really because i'm constantly thinking she will die. I've never had a mum and its all i want, I suffer everyday!! The abuse growing up the heartache and pain. I never talk about it to anyone because it's to painful. Growing up feeling no one loves me, neglected and suffering if anyone could offer help that would be great.


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Alcoholic Mother by

I'm only 16 nearly 17 and have been dealing my mums alcoholism since i can remember, its all i have ever known. She has a breakdown when i was 4 and has been drinking since i can remember. I have spent my life begging my mum to get help, researching her symptoms. It has had a huge impact on my mental health negatively, no one should have to go through this. This isn't nice to hear but one of the hardest lessons i learnt is that when it comes to addicts they have to want to get better, that doesn't mean leave them to it they will need help and encouragement. My mum after years and years finally went to the doctors she heavily suffered the stigma around mental health. My point is you can do everything and anything but it's down to them, my mum had a wake up call she is know in hospital and severely ill as her liver has failed, it was a wake up call. You need to make sure that you look after yourself because otherwise it will ruin you, it nearly ruined me and has torn my family apart. I understand if that helps.