I’m so new to this!
I left a wonderful marriage of 20 years to try and find myself after finding my husband had cheated on me with my best friend.
I moved house and I was struggling with my new life and heartbroken.
A few weeks later - Without looking I met a wonderful guy who was non stop chat and we immediately became friends (which is where I wish it had stayed) we soon struck up a more intimate relationship and before I knew it he was doing jobs on the house - caring about me and the kids and all was well except the gut instinct. I had heard stories of him being a coke head - when I confronted him he was agitated and said he was angry that some people portraying him in a bad light etc etc and even his mum got angry with me and said if people want to believe rumours then their not worth it! She’s a lovely lady and he has a close relationship so I chose to believe it was hearsay.
Roll on a year - I have a very close friend who is an occasional user I introduced my partner to him recently after he came to pick me up from a pub we were at.
The next day my partner said to me I really like your friend can I have his number - I refused and said what do you want it for - it’s about work. I knew he was lying so I text my friend to say if he asks for cocaine please tell me. Couple of days later I went to see my friend and he told me he did exactly what I thought so this confirmed my instincts. My friend and I chatted about how often he goes to the toilet (all the time!) his nose bleeds a lot during the night especially - he sniffs constantly but he told me it was because of hay fever - his skin is terrible covered in rashes - again tells me allergy.
So we came to the conclusion he prob dos it all the time.
Anyway we are currently on holiday and I’m watching closely monitoring his moods his toilet trips etc
So Tuesday eve we go for a nice meal and he visits the toilet 3 x during an hour pub visit. We return back to campsite and he starts drinking JD - he becomes calmer chattier etc - seems drunk even.
During the night I decided to look through his wallet (I have done this before and found nothing) in the wallet was a business card Tore in half rolled up like a tube. I then discovered a secret compartment which I had never come across before - one empty baggy and another one filled with coke!!!! I removed the coke and I have hidden it. I went back to bed and remained calm and normalish yesterday! Inside I’m angry agitated and know I have to leave him.
I have no idea if I have done the right thing stealing the coke? But I guess we on holiday it’s probably only stuff he has left and I’m watching his moods.
Have I done the right thing stealing the bag?
How do I approach him to say it’s coke or me?!!!
I have confronted him and tried to talk to him before approaching him with different ways he’s always denied any cocaine habit and says if anything he drinks too much (this also true! He can’t go a day without alcohol!)
He gets angry if I ask him and he will storm off and disappear for hours or a day etc
I know I must sound naive as I’ve researched and the signs were obvious but I really have no idea about drugs I’ve never done them or been around people that do (except my one friend but i see him only occasionally) I sound so stupid!
Any advice I would be grateful