Hi everyone, I’ve just registered as I just needed to get this out. So after 7 years of being with my husband I found out in July that he has had a coke addiction throughout our whole relationship and before. He is a big drinker, I always put his behaviour down to alcohol however I’ve learnt it was coke and alcohol. He told me he’d sort himself out for me and our children, he had one counselling session and that’s it. I believe he tried to beat it, but I think he lied about the extend of his addiction. 4 weeks ago out of the blue he upped and left me, told me he didn’t love me anymore, swore blind it wasn’t because of the coke and that he wasn’t using. 2 weeks after he leaves he admits he’d been on it all weekend and that was part of the reason he left, other than he wasn’t happy but he won’t elaborate on that. I’ve been researching addiction and I know lies are part of it. I’m just devastated, I’ve tried to help him and support even before I found out because gambling was the cover up for a few years. I’m just broken, can’t get my head round coke is more important than me and his kids.
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