I’ve been with my husband for 23 years and he’s always liked to dabble with drugs but nothing too bad and thought he was better since we had our first child. He did have a drugs addiction before I met him but he was just a kid then, I don’t know if he had a bad upbringing because he never really talks about his childhood but I’d say, it’s only been last year, that I found out, he had been taking cocaine, for a year, he started off at his mates taking it, then while me and my child was in bed. He’s attitude was awful with me, going off on the least thing and blaming me for it, he lost interest in a lot of things and just wanted to sleep in afternoons and hated family days out or would want to start an argument, just before going. I then got pregnant with my second and found out then what he was doing, whilst finding bags of the stuff. He didn’t know what to say and said he glad I found out but then has been doing it on and off and denying it but I could tell by his attitude towards me. He’s always blowing his nose, most days but says he isn’t doing it, so are users noses like that, when not taking? He promised me, if he does it again, he will get help but still hasn’t. I’ve threatened him with all sorts but I can’t keep going on like this. He said he will get help, once he gets cravings, I don’t believe him but what do I do and what do they get up to while taking it on their own? It seems really sad to me.
From the Blog
There needs to be more awareness and recognition that kinship carers are facing a particular set of challenges. In terms of the advice that is available for kinship carers at the moment, a lot of it can feel quite contradictory. For example, the general government advice on COVID-19 states that grandparents in the over 70 age category shouldn’t come into contact with children, however these carers are in a situation where they are living with and taking care of children. There needs to be specific advice and support that is tailored for kinship families in the current situation.