Well he told me in the end…I knew that he’d used it in the past and then he started spending a lot of time with a friend of his that I knew did it. He would turn his phone off and go off for hours or overnight. He started off by admitting he’d done it a couple of times. Our relationship started to spiral downwards and I knew inside what he was doing, even though I didn’t really want to believe it. I can’t remember exactly how it came to light now but I do remember being absolutely devastated-I felt completely empty.
In some ways I think we needed to hit that rock bottom, i think he realised he was about to lose everything.
I can’t tell you if your partner is doing the same thing but if you have found clues and he’s blaming a friend then it sounds likely. I’ve been where you are and it’s a total shit storm. Sending hugs xx