Good to see we are not alone but what I can see is that we are all trying to deal with this issue and suffer the anxiety from it when we really shouldnt. Being with them is a choice. We dont have to be with them. On the other hand. He is love of my life and its like he is 2 different people
Ones loving ,attentive, protective and just what you want for in a man. Makes you feel safe. But then the other side can drop me so quickly when hes on his missions with these so called mates and thats it. He will be gone and I’m left waiting. Then thats the same side that says “you make me lie to you because of how you are with me” and remember defense is always the best line of attack so no matter what you come at him with and im sure he has a reason to act that way due to something you have done. I’m asking mine again to be honest with me today as I have found items again which he cant blame on a mate. I just want the truth so I can react. I doubt I will get it as he knows its shameful and that means admitting it to himself as well.
I read something earlier about a woman whos partner was an addict and the advice she got was likening it someone walking a dog on a flexi lead. So the dog is right at the end of the lead and hes running away and not coming back. The woman kept calling the dog back and walking after it. Nothing. She started running after it and the dog just kept going. The point is if you stop following the dog hes going to stop at some point and look around and realise hes all alone. You keep following and he wont.