I cometpley understand and goig through the same thing.
It’s unbearable to watch. To the point I can not bare to live a single more day of this nightmare.
The effect it’s having on my parents who are already ill ( mum is bed bound and my dad has had 3 heart attacks and now depressed) her poor son who she hasn’t seen since July.
They just don’t care about anyone but themselves.
I’m also new to the group so don’t really have much advice for you but I just wanted you to know I can relate to you.