Hi there. I can relate to this. I was the same always giving in. Both mine have and still are there. I threw the worst one out 1 1/2 years ago. Stuck to my guns( I knew he was fine as sofa surfing at family/ friends). Due to mental health long story short he was housed. Lovely flat, he is 26 baring in mind I have been through the same as you. Abusive threatened because I say no(still do). He still continues to do weed and coke but it’s his home his choices. When he’s no money left I say no now. He makes his choices and he needs to learn. It’s a bit different for you at the moment as you are where I was 10 years ago. It’s hard it is draining but stick to your guns and let the authorities house him. Tell them you can’t cope and it’s effecting you both mentally and they will have to accommodate him. My son was never going to change and is still continuing to do what he wants, but it’s not an every day thing now as when he has no money left then he has to wait till he gets his next lot. I wish I had done this years ago as he’s learning slowly that no means no. He’s not going to stop the drugs or the gambling. I have meltdowns still where I can’t cope as I am also going through the same thing with my other son who’s still at home. Although he’s not demanding is older and works hard. Just the drugs and the gambling again. My older two do not have anything to do with them as they are against drugs etc. Keep saying no, it’s draining and makes you feel guilty but it works. I do cook for him when he is out of food. I do lend the odd fiver only now and again for milk or baccy. Which am guessing some people would say it’s wrong but it works for me. When they can do the things they want without a parent keep going on at them sometimes they tire of doing the same thing all the time with freedom. I may sound calm at the moment but believe me I am still going through hell just I get a couple days rest bite here and there. Hope this helps. Read some of the other posts. I joined yesterday and it actually calmed me down a little knowing that I am not alone. Far too much to go into this is just a the tip of the iceberg. Here if you need to talk x
