Hello, and thank you so much for taking the time to reply. It does give me some hope that your eldest son is living independently and that has helped to restrict his drug use, that is what I am hoping will happen with our son if /when we can get him to move out.
What a nightmare for you having to cope with a second child on ketamine ( my son has admitted to using it and “everything ” previously too, says it’s just weed atm). You are being strong dealing with it and at least your second son knows you mean what you say, hope I can be the same. My mum could never say no to my brother. He conned her out of money by saying he was doing up a couple of vans to sell, but they always needed another part before they could be sold (which she paid for). She was really shocked when we were able to tell her there were no vans. She always gave him the benefit of the doubt. He took her bank card and was taking money out of her account when she was in hospital for the last time. He also didn’t want to give up the drugs. She was sad and depressed and worried what would happen to him when she was gone.
That is why I admire you in being able to take a stand and taking some time out for you, as you say, there seems to be nothing we can do to help them stop if they don’t really want to.
Thanks again, it does help knowing other people understand, and I am going to take some time to read other posts too.
Best wishes x