Hi Lolaleigh,
So sorry to read about your brother and hope that he is able to accept that he needs some help soon.
If you would like some support for yourself you might like to contact us at The Icarus Trust. We are a charity that offers support for people , like you, who are dealing with the impact of a family member’s addiction. We have trained, experienced people who you could talk with that might be helpful for you.
You can contact us on help@icarustrust.org or visit the website http://www.icarustrust.org
Good luck with everything.