Hi KJU and Desperate,
I’m so very sad to read your posts and to understand how very hard it is for you to deal with your children’s addictions.
I work for a charity called The Icarus Trust which is set up to offer support to people who are dealing with the addictions of a loved one, because we know how hard this is. If you feel that it would be helpful, please contact us and we will put you in touch with one of our trained experienced people who you could talk with.
You can contact us on help@icarustrust.org or visit the website http://www.icarustrust.org
I hope that you can find some help and support for yourselves.
All the best to you.