You are not over reacting as it is now becoming more than recreational use for him. This is our worst issue and is as important as everyone else’s.
Do you think that coke is the root of the problem because it is for me.
My husband is the same. We have never held each other to times but when he says he’s going out for a couple of hours I expect him to be later, but not ten to fifteen hours later. He used to be back at at a sensible time when he was his normal self.
Twelve months ago he told me he was going to start staying in as he was wasting his weekends being hungover and not enjoying time with me. Which he was regretting. This was when he was on the one or two lines a year. He tried for a couple of months then started going out three times a week and not coming home. Six months later he had his personality change. He’s still on the three night week, how many lines of coke I don’t know. He has also driven home under the influence. Sleeps for a few hours when he returns and is then violently sick for the rest of the day. He also zones out watching the tv. Nothing is of interest he won’t even look after his dogs. That’s how bad he is. He doesn’t care one bit about anything other than ‘popping out’ to see his like minded friends and family, leaving me feeling like what the hell has happened to our wonderful, happy life.
I’m feeling low too, I understand far too well.
I feel like I need to try snorting a line so that I can forget my life and responsibilities and not give a hoot about anything and anyone. At least I’d be off my head and out of this misery.