I really feel so sorry for you.. he needs help, until he seeks help and admits the problem things will spiral out of control. I am going through the same sort of thing, addiciton is so hard to deal with when youre the person thats meant to be ‘supporting’ the addict… its mentally draining and it does make you so paranoid and it does ruin relationships. I am so worried I will end up married like you and it will get worse.
Sending love and hugs to you x