Hi Hox and REB,
Thanks for posting.If you would like some support for yourselves please contact us at The Icarus Trust. We are a charity that supports people having to deal with the addictive behaviours of a family member. We have trained and experienced people that you could talk with who would understand what you are going through.
You can contact us on help@icarustrust.org or visit the website http://www.icarustrust.org
I hope that this is useful.