I see, did the girl contact you to tell you? if i am honest, I think hes putting feelers out there like you say. Its completely unacceptable. I cant stand it when they make out its us, it so selfish it makes you just want to give up doesn’t it.
Oh bless you, what an awful feeling that must be – if he went off with someone who accepted that then I think that would be time to let go, he would learn in the long run as his life would be ruined entirely, he’d lose everything..
If he cheats, he would know what he was doing, he would know it was wrong… it doesnt make you out of control in that sense. Yes it makes you horny on it, ive heard but tbh you cant get a hard on usually on it so I wouldnt worry.
I am going to a support group on a monday evening you should see locally what they offer and see if this helps you understand etc.
xxx