I agree with all you’ve said. I am patient and do only try to talk when he’s sober but when I found out he’s relapsed its only natural to want to talk there and then because I am so sad, 1) that he’s relapsed and 2) to know he’s suffering and feels he cannot tell anyone!
He went to rehab last year so knows the tools and what to do, it just seems he’s lost his control now and is struggling again. I just feel resentment and so many questions go through my head, like what are you doing when you’re high? You don’t talk to me for hours, so who are you talking to? It makes me paranoid.
I know it will have the opposite affect (tried it haha) and it doesn’t work. Please can you enlighten be on the dopamine in the brain? I have never heard of this before and am interested.
Its a life long battle you are right, and I do want to be there every step of the way supporting him but it’s hard when you feel that you are no longer important to that person.
I like talking too! Makes me feel less crazy haha.