I agree totally about being the right time to talk to an addict. Apparently there’s a cycle and it depends where they are in that cycle if they are willing to stop or at least to think about it.
When my husband was at his worst using 3/4 times a week he was vile! It wouldn’t have mattered what I’d suggested or threatened he would have told me to do one.
Other times he’s still not overly as pro active as I would be about tips to quit. I do all the hard work, the researching, the links, the success stories, the lot! He will have a look if I see something but he’s not enthusiastic as such.
Other times I will blank him and not do the chasing and he will chase me then, however if he was deep in it, I doubt he would.
That’s why they have to do it on their own. It seems so simple doesn’t it? To leave them to it, if only we didn’t love them it would be easy. I’ve wished for that so bad sometimes, I wish I’d just fall out of love so I could move on and forget him. It’s like he’s my drug, I’m codependent that’s the problem.