Bluebell- my husband does this too, before drugs he was devoted to me, he was my best friend. He used to shower me with love.
When we fight and he’s vile, he still stalks me, like searches for me and tells me if I ever go with anyone else he’ll never get back with me even after he’s got clean. It’s all manipulation.
He’s put feelers out to try and move on himself though. But his is justified because in his head drugs have corrupted his brain and makes him think everything is my fault and he doesn’t know if he loves me at times as he doesn’t even love himself. But he knows he loves me really! Haha what a messed up situation. I agree it’s like their minds have been hijacked. Nothing makes sense and we are on this rollercoaster every step of the way!