Thank you so much for all the replies. It’s useful to hear how it affects partners. The trouble is although we offered support to my son’s previous partner she denied he was taking cocaine, even though we told her all the symptoms which he was demonstrating. We also know she herself took it in the early days together so I find it hard that she didn’t know. Anyway his latest partner as far as I can tell just leaves him to it. She goes to see her family a lot and doesn’t commit when we ask her outright if he is taking it. Danman it’s really good that you are trying your best to stop and I wish you all the best – stick at it and I am sure your life will improve massively eventually without it. It’s good that you able to talk to your mum and keep that communication going (whatever happens). I wish my son would talk to me or his dad about it. We have tried to speak to him face to face on many occasions when he lived in his house. He would just not answer the door, mobile etc no matter what we did. He know lives in a flat so we can’t even get access through the front door to get to his flat. Bluebell so sorry you have had to resort to divorce to escape your husband’s habit. I think it is very brave and you and your son’s will have a much better quality of life. Hox, listen to what Bluebell is saying as she has been through it and it will only get worse. Sometimes myself and my husband have discussed moving away but we have the rest of our family around us that I don’t want to leave. Also even though my husband has taken the brunt of my son’s aggression many times he is always the one that keeps trying to break the ice and get through to him.
