As it was my first meeting it just seemed a bit overwhelming and a lot to take in. All of the other members said it helps massively but it’s certainly not a quick fix, it takes time to learn the steps and begin to practice them. They said that eventually you can learn to detach and realise that you can’t control anyone else’s actions only your own and nor should you want to….. that’s the bit I struggle with, lol I want to control him into coming to his senses. But I guess it will be a working progress and I do need help from somewhere, I’m desperate! I burst out crying in there tonight, mainly because it was a massive release! But I felt like a idiot! All the other women seemed to have it so all together. I hope I will eventually be like that.
I kept thinking if I wasn’t with my husband anymore non of these problems would be in my life, I wouldn’t need to be attending 12 step meetings to fix myself. But I think the damage is already done and the emotional termoil we’ve been through I think we need all the help we can get xx