Oh babe, seriously, I’d walk away. I know it seems harsh but i’ve been with my ex husband for 19 years, he always smoked weed and drank but the last 6/7 years he was doing coke, loads of it £40,000 debt when I found out and I have just seen the lovely man I knew disappear. We have 2 kids and I feel my life has been wasted these last 7 years. We got back together last year but it didn’t work as he lied again and in 5e end I gave an ultimatum and he chose the drugs. If your bf is like that now imagine what he will be like in 7 years. Walk away while you still can. The one consistent theme on this forum is that unless they want to change they will not and no amount of yelling and ultimatums will change that. I changed into a nervous controlling anxious wreck because of him. That is not who I am. He says all sorts of things to me, but actions speak louder than words. We are getting divorced, he doesn’t care any more, Coke makes them become arseholes. I think he is our living it large and doesn’t give a second thought to me any more. Don’t end up in my shoes. Sorry babe to be so blunt, but I wish I had the benefit of hindsight. I wouldn’t have chosen this for me and my boys. X
