I’ve tried being really understanding but he always looks horrified when I suggest if he has to use that he should tell me instead of just disappearing, then at least it wouldn’t be so mad about the lies and not knowing where he is and what times he will be back! He said he’d never do that as then it normalises it and it’s not normal, maybe he likes the thrill of doing it behind my back?
His lies have become normal now, it’s like he doesn’t even know the lies from reality anymore, like not even just about drugs, he will lie about anything which makes it impossible to know how he’s really feeling or if he’s ever telling the truth. You’re right the drug has literally changed him so much that he’s almost unrecognisable anymore. I never know what he’s planning next and he never sees anything he’s done as being as bad as everyone else sees it, he will admit things he’s done are wrong but downplays everything.
He took £40 of our sons Christmas money to get drugs with, then told my 8 year old he hadn’t stolen it, he’d only borrowed it and I was gonna give it him back. When I went mad he said I always exaggerate! Anyone normal would say it’s stealing if you hadn’t asked to lend it and how could he assume I’d be giving it my son back without even asking me? Little things like this were becoming everyday occurrences. It’s like all common sense has gone along with all his morals.