Hi, im new to this forum and when i read your story it felt all too familiar with how you are feeling.
I’ve been with my boyfriend for 3 years and he has drinking problems. Whilst it is a constant uphill battle one of the things which is helping both me and him is being brutally honest with each other about how we feel when certain situations arise (this may feel like a silly statement but for me it got to the point where I was recording him drunk then showing him when sober and he was horrified and got to the point where I got him off drinking vodka). I have felt so lonely trying to encourage him and be there for him but some of the time I feel like I am wasting my breath. The only suggestion I can give is maybe going with him to his gp and seeing what they can do to help. They can refer him to places where he can get help coming off alcohol and give him counciling. Another thing which my boyfriend has only recently started doing is going to AA meetings. That is a massive step for him and he wouldn’t have got there unless the councillor and his gps help on the way. It has taken him a lot to get to this point and he still hasn’t stopped drinking and I can’t see him stopping anytime soon as it’s a very long road still ahead of him. There is nothing more I would love than for there to be this magic cure which takes affect over night.
I hope this helps and stay strong!