Can see it must be hard for yourself and husband. Ots a hard one for both of you but i know first hamd when someine is on at you about getting help and constantly it starts to become a feeling of resenting the person trying to help because you can see you need it and the last thing you want is other people telling you you need help as well. He might try and get it one day but obviously now isnt the time for him.
I go to my work every day even if i have had a couple of hours sleep because of coke and tske my girls places and all the things i should be doing but i can be doing a lot more for them so thats why i made the decision to go for it.
Its a shame because ur son will probs be missing his kids as well but just in this rut. Its been since november so will be feeling guilty and thinking its gon a be hard to get back in touch.