Bhoyo thanks for the advice about offering help to our son. Good to see it from a different prospective. What we are worried about is that we helped him sell his house in November and he got over £20,000. He owed us money but we didn’t expect any back. However, he owes a family member money, which we are paying back as my husband was the guarantor. I think we thought as it had been discussed with him that he would pay some back to the family member. We worry that he will spend all the money on the big C and have nothing left. Then what will he do as he isn’t working, living with his current gf in her flat. Like you said the longer he leaves not contacting us or his kids and their mums the harder it will be.
Anyway, how did the meeting go for you yesterday? Hope you got some good advice on what you need to do.