Yes of course, I understand totally. I’m going through the same with my husband, he can be such a amazing man but cocaine has literally turned him into someone who’s unrecognisable at times. He’s lost his job (which was a good one) lost most of his friends, the majority of his family and mine, have no time for him anymore. He also has a criminal record now for drink/drug driving along with taking the car without permission. Just when you think he can’t get any worse, he does. The amount of times I’ve thought “ this has to be his rock bottom!” But sadly no it’s not! I’ve joked many of times that I think one day he will just think “oh I’m bored of it now” then snap out of it. Who knows when it will end? It will be interesting to know, nothing can last forever!
Maybe try backing off him entirely, I know that at al anon they said last week that if you change your game plan and focus on yourself, don’t keep on about drugs or guilt tripping etc, that sometimes the addict is drawn by the change of behaviour so is then forced to look at themselves, although as I said with him having a girl friend who’s not much use, probably isn’t helping him!