Hi All, it’s good to read all your posts which makes me realise other parents in same situation as us. My son is 32 and has been a cocaine addict for approx 10 years. He started socially at weekends but it has now taken over his life. Two failed relationships, one child with each. He has no job as ended up self employed but was unreliable. We helped him sell his house before Christmas before it got repossessed. We haven’t really heard from him since end of November as he has cut us off. He ended up with a large amount of money. We were paying his household bills so that he would be straight with these. He still has big debts from credit cards but we consolidated these through Stepchange. He also owes a close family member a large sum of money which we are now paying off. Gave his girlfriend his xmas presents and have tried to contact him via phone, text but hardly anything other than odd short text. Can’t go and see him as he lives in a flat with security code access. We know from when he was in his house that he would just ignore us and not answer. He hasn’t been in touch with his kids or their mums since end of November. He had just got back to seeing them after not seeing them for months. Can’t get any info from his new gf as she has to check with him. She is standing by him but not telling us what he is doing even though we are offering our support. I have watched videos on YouTube and sent for books to try and understand the addiction. I text him and explained what I have done and suggested he watch one of the videos. When I asked if he had watched it he said not yet and then I haven’t had any response since. Over the past two years he has lived on and off with us and let us control his money but in the end he always takes back control and goes back to cocaine. We are both at our wits end and it’s caused a massive strain on our relationship. We have been to counselling but stopped as hubby said it focussed on us but didn’t tell us how we can help our son. Sorry to pour it all out but it does help.
