Hi there everyone I can totally relate to everything everybody has said I have been with a guy for about a year and although I had my suspicions it has recently been confirmed that he has a chronic cocaine problem he never has any money if we go out which is where I have to pay for everything I’ve bought him clothes food, Petrol, paid bills – we don’t live together- mainly because he told me he had previous debts from when his wife left him for another man all this turns out to be rubbish the debts which are many more to dealers mainly and unpaid bills he has a company car company phone he rents two rooms out in his house to which he does not declare and yet still has no money and I jokingly said after we’ve been together a few weeks I think you have a secret cocaine addiction to which he laughed off and said he couldn’t afford that he also smokes cannabis but this doesn’t seem to be such a problem I do love him and when he’s good it’s great, but we live a distance apart and once he goes back home I’ve no idea what he’s up to and sometimes he disappears for days. I want it to work but have no unbreakable bonds with him he says he wants to quit and change and sort his life out but there have been so many lies, all very plausible I have to say, I don’t know what to believe anymore I don’t know whether to try the Toughlove approach one last time before running for the hills? any suggestions please would be appreciated Lou ????
