Hi ButtonBoy , its so hard to watch them struggle, my son who is now 24 had a relapse too and I ended up driving around a village trying to find him as he was calling me hiding in a bush as a dealer had broken into his flat looking for him as he owed him money. He escaped the flat and hid… AND again I paid his debts by using my credit cards and taking a bank loan although I told him the last time that I would never pay his debts again! He was so grateful and told me he was back at CA and remorseful but I know like every other time I have helped I wont get a penny back. He stole from me a couple of weeks ago but obviously says it wasn’t him… My son lived with me until December when he was granted a council flat, he is working and has to pay rent and bills etc and I thought his would be his turning point… but sadly not. He has already been through rehab but his addiction is so strong, he hates it and hates what it is doing but is not strong enough to stop. I know that before rehab he sniffed throughout the day, it got so bad he the got seizures… I don’t know if the addiction is now the same again or hasn’t got to that point yet. He says he is clean… I say he is not so now he hasn’t contacted me for a week and I hate it but there is a small part of me that is grateful that I am not living in that environment again. My other children deserve more, I have made the decision to put their needs before his because he has had my full attention for far too long. My other 3 hate drugs and the world surrounding it so I need to concentrate on them now. I love my son so much that my heart aches for him but I can’t save him, only he can do that. xx I cant tell you whether to pay the debts or not and like Lime18 I have never been able to say No..
