Oh Kim, I really feel for you but just know that you are not alone in this situation. There are loads of us, parents, in a similar position to yourselves. Our son is 32 and in the past we have bailed him out, paid his mortgage, bills and drug debts. He did come back and live with us for a while and I have to admit it was really difficult as although he started in a drug rehabilitation programme a number of times he never stuck with it. He now lives with his gf as we helped him sell his house which resulted in him getting a large sum of money. He has hardly been in touch since. Anyway a couple of suggestions, see if there is a drug rehab service available in your area for your son. However, it is no use unless he wants to quit. You can also get some counselling for yourself as a parent. With regard to paying off his drug debts we stopped doing this as it felt like we were enabling him. I know it is tough love and you will worry about the consequences but tell your son you can no longer pay for his drug debts and he must think about this before he gets himself into a situation. These are just possible suggestions. Stay strong.
