Louise – how are you doing? how did things turn out in the end?
The sad thing is, I read through these and really feel for you all – they need more support groups for people living with addicts etc as its so impossible to understand and I have felt so lost and confused at times – as most of the people are that have just realised their loved one has an addiction.
I thought me screaming and shouting and threatening to walk would stop the cocaine use, but the sad truth is, he can have the strongest possible love for you but that will come first and its devastating. In the end you realise this too.
My mum said to me walk and told me time and time again – this will happen again and it did and i learnt the hard way.
Janette as you said yourself you know nothing about drugs – so you probably wont realise now but it might be worth reading up on addiction and stuff and go through some of these forums and peoples experiences.
I am glad he has gone to the doctors to seek help – the thing is, you need to stop giving him money – as itll be for drugs.
I wish there was a miracle cure, honestly I do.. i have watched hours and hours of youtube videos on this and i still dont get it, its so sad.
Let us know how you get on in the next couple of weeks but all I will say Janette is that addicts lie and manipulate to feed their addiciton, he will start an argument for nothing so he can go out and use – so bare that in mind, it absolutely comes before anything and everything, kids, marriages etc – dont be fooled and dont be naive. This is from personal experience, dont do what i did.. you want to believe it and its hard, stay strong and remove yourself from the situation and come on here for advice, get some drug testing kits from Amazon and test him.
xxx