Luckily I’m financially dependant. He always pays back any money he borrows and to be honest it’s more hassle to not lend him. I’m finding this new approach much less stressful and now I can see he’s having to make changes because I’m not his safety net from outsiders seeing what is going on. I used to cover his ass constantly but now I’ve taken a backseat he is having to change. In my mind I’ve always helped because that showed I cared if that makes sense. Now I see it differently, I still care but I need to stop letting it take over my life and I need to look after myself. I will remain his support when he needs and the non addict which helps him stay clean but I can’t do anymore. I can’t tell him what to do. I can only encourage the right steps and ignore the chaos. Xx
