Hi Bella
I was in the same position as you, a year in, thought it was recreational use but I was naive and very very wrong.
You will slowly realise that no matter what you say or do, if he doesnt admit the problem and seek professional help (and he needs to really want it) then nothing will change.
Addiction is so confusing to a non addict, i went through shouting/screaming/cryin g/threatening and it DOESNT work as cocaine is number 1.. and it sounds like I am being harsh but honestly, addiction is the most confusing thing i have ever come across.
He will lie and manipulate – i personally based on my own experience would absolutely run a mile while you can. I literally ended up mentally drained from it, you honestly cant help him HE MUST help himself… its really tough to accept, as you want to believe more than anything theyll change but if hes in denial and even his family arent aware I cant see it getting better anytime soon – his family need to know.
As for the CA meetings, they didnt help my partner – they actually seemed to make him worse – but thats just my experience
How much is he doing per day? do you have kids etc?
Youve come to the right place, i would suggest you read through some threads.. as lots of us have been in your shoes and can give honest advice xx