Hi Flowerbud,
Thanks for posting. Please contact us at The Icarus Trust if you would like to talk with someone who would understand what you are dealing with and maybe answer some of your questions. We are a charity that supports people like yourself ,who are dealing with the addiction of a family member. If you contact us we could put you in touch with one of our experienced and trained people.
You can contact us on help@icarustrust.org or visit the website http://www.icarustrust.org
I hope this is helpful. Good luck.