Hiya gill.. hope your ok. 1st of im doing my best to quit coke. I.hate the stuff..i have lapsed 2 times in 14 week. The soon as i lapse i am back to not having it and in regret.
Drinking alcohol is a major factor in wanting cocaine. He needs to stop drinking totally. Coke sends you depressed and suicidal. So its that stuff thats making him mental if you ask me and his come downs.
And gill.. this is no way you.. but you really need to start to think about yourself and if you are happy with him?
Do you really need this crap? He shouldnt be bringing up past failures or calling you. He should be supporting you. Fair enough.. ive said bad things to my gf but thats every blue moon after a night out and we have had too much to drink. But still thats no excuse.
Does he want to quit? To be fair he needs stop alcohol and coke all together. He doesnt seem a nice person on the stuff.
Maybe have a word and say if he doesnt stop and change, your moving on with your life. Always think of your kids and you 1st!
My gf has stuck by me, shes not really been suportive. But im doing my best to stop. I dont drink anymore. And im trying everything to stop. Hope this helps. And good luck.
Id really have a good think what you want out of all this, and tell him.