Hi Gabdi
When youre addicted to cocaine, you cant just ‘stop’ – its hard really to explain it, it might be worth reading through some threads so you understand addiction a bit more.
Cocaine can completely change people, it can make people paranoid and nasty, it sounds like he is hiding an addiction, also, you say he has 1 drink a day – it also sounds like there is a potential drinking problem there as well.
if youre doing something regulary and you cant go without it, youre addicted. You can buy drug tests on Amazon, i would suggest you test him then if hes not telling the truth.
when someone has an addiction whether it be alcohol or drugs, it comes first, before your wife/husband/kids/work, its a disease and sometimes incurable. People really have to hit rock bottom before they give up.
I wont go into my experience but I have been there with my partner, its hell.. but the start of recovery is actually wanting to give up and admitting it. It made my partner insane, it causes mental health problems big time. I got accused of cheating constantly, he was vile and cocaine changes people.
He sounds like hes deep in addiction and i think hes hiding it from you, the only way youll know is to start drug testing but if he doesnt want help of any kind it will continue and it will come first.
drinking and smoking weed as well, he sounds like hes got an addiction problem all round, it doesnt matter if its 1 a day or once a week, if you cant not do it, then youre addicted.