Hi
Thank you for your message.
We have been together about a year, live together and have pets together so I do have ties.
He has admitted that he has a problem and he wants to get help, he just feels too ashamed to tell me when he wants to do it I think is the main problem… he has said the actual words I am an addict and I know he wants to stop.
I am very naive about it all, I’ve never really had experience of this so it’s all new and difficult to me. I spoke to a professional yesterday and she helped a bit.
He has hit rock bottom and on Sunday I sat him down and gave him the facts, I basically said either he engages with CA and whatever else it takes and speaks honestly with me about it all or I am going to have to leave for my own good and if I do I will be taking the pets as well and I think that really hit him hard.
I know he can’t just cure himself instantly but my ultimatum was more that he has to do whatever it takes and work with it all and if he does want to use or relapses then he needs to tell me about it and not just shut himself off.
I know I need help and support and that’s where this group is good I think because I don’t want to talk to my friends and family about it all of the time.
He is going to make a doctors appointment and I will probably go with him if I can and we can discuss all options that will work alongside CA.
Thank you for your help I appreciate it xx