Hi Georgia,
Thanks so much for your reply..
This all tings so true and is completely where I’m at now.. since he left a few months ago I’ve felt so much relief and the atmosphere has gotten so much better at home – I can give the kids more of my time (which I should be doing anyway)
I’ve looked into to counselling already locally and he has a birthday coming up which I was considering buying him a few sessions – in my opinion is the best gift I could ever get him… just dont want to waste my money…
I do believe he really wants to stop but right now it’s just far too available to him… if I could get him to stop work for a while (no point him working right now anyway as it only funds the poison)
He really only has me and 2 of out friends as support as his family have buried their heads and as much as I’ve begged for help and described the n detail the lengths he can to to I think still refuse to believe it…
I’ve sent him a few things to do that I’ve seen on these posts (pocket rehab, louise Clarke etc – thank you to Danman) and if I feel he’s really trying there then I will 100% get a few counselling sessions…
He really struggles to open up he’s such a closed book that it’s so so difficult to beak him down – I mean I’ve been with him over 15 years and trying to get him to express his feelings has always been a problem…
Again thank you so so much x