Reply To: Happening again

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amski12
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I’m totally with you there with the trust and the anger…

I had a conversation with my ex earlier (we have kids) and I asked when the last time was he said a couple of days ago then went in to say because of something I’d said (think I had told him I think we’re pretty much done) so I was furious and said you can’t blame me which I don’t think he was blaming me at all just trying to explain why he felt down and turned to it…

I now try to take a step back when I start thinking why would you do that because I would never treat someone this way because I’m not in his position, I don’t have the cravings and can only imagine the hell he must go through in his own mind…

I’m now at a pin t though we’re i’ve had to completely come away from him and take a massive step back because he isn’t doing any meeting or appointments yet, he’s (in my opinion) not there yet..

I think it’s great your partner is and if he has slipped up at least he’s on the right track, getting the help he needs – he probably will lapse from time to time but as long as the want for help and want to get better is there then he’s on the right road…

You make sure you’re looking after yourself, that’s what I didn’t do and had such bad anxiety and panic attacks I was heading into a bad place myself, nearly gave up my job (which i love) wasn’t the best mum for my kids so I had no other option but to pull away and sort myself out…

Good luck to you both

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