I’m going through the exact same it’s like the rare occasion you get some truth they get pissed off you don’t believe them like the countless lies beforehand mean nothing (boy who cried wolf) I tell him now though regardless of whether you’re telling. Me the truth you’ve lied that much you have to bare with me while I learn to trust you again, I tell him that he’s broken down everything. With me it’s a hell of lot more than a sudden truth that’ll fix it…
Maybe you should take a bit of time to yourself to build yourself back up again! I feel I was where you are now a few months ago (he’s had a problem for a few years but it’s accelerated the past 2/3 years) I think I’ve kind of been through so many different ways of handling it all I’ve had to walk away till her gets help… he’s not doing anything at the minute to get help…
He has to appreciate this from your pint of view also, he’s putting you through so much and expecting you to be there he also needs to support you…
I only joined this last week and it’s helped me so much talking to other people that are going through the same and people who are the ones with a problem and understanding it from their perspective – it’s helping me know how to kind of be towards him
And how to try and point him in the right direction…
You really really do need to put yourself first now, make sure you’re ok as a priority – my mental health was declining rapid I was prescribed anti depressants took one and decided no thisnisnt me, my Mum has suffered the past 20+ years with her mental health and lead to drink, from being about 14 I’ve gone through that with her too and I promised myself I would never ever allow myself to be depressed (not as easy as that) but being so young and seeing what I did with my
Mum I am not going there I refuse and I’m not doing it to my kids (I know she couldn’t/can’t help it) so as soon as I saw my mum in my reflection I drew the line and put myself first – since doing that I feel I can support him
More, and stick to boundaries…
Sorry to waffle I just hope telling you what I’ve gone/ going through may help…