UpwardSpiral you need to take care of yourself. It is hard when you love your oh and only want to help. Problem is they really don’t think it is a problem. It is a problem for us not them. He needs to want help himself. No amount of talking, arguing or reasoning will make any difference whats so ever. You are wasting your time and effort.
They are never in the right place when snorting cocaine. Bad decisions with work and money something they would never have done before the dreaded stuff behind abused.
Probably take a step back, look after yourself a bit more and see what happens. Don’t give him money to enable him. It is his choice to take it at the end of the day and his choice to stop it.
I may sound harsh but I really don’t want it to come over that way. I only want the best for you both without cocaine ruining your lives.