My ‘husband’ used to sniff cocaine occasionally when we first met so it wasn’t a problem and of course I didn’t know the effects of the stuff. So doing it rarely had no affect on him and it didn’t affect our relationship.
Fast forward fourteen years. After a brush with the law he started to drink heavily and upped the amount of cocaine he was snorting. I think myself it was a daily occurrence up until his incarceration. He lied constantly about his sniffing saying he had the flu. He had no money to contribute to the household bills and stopped going to work regularly a year ago unbeknown to me. He also had credit card bills and was applying for more credit during this time.
Yesterday I went to visit his cousin. We talked about how he had changed not only toward me but to him. I told him that ‘husband’ had sworn on his dads life that he had not had cocaine for four years. Well cousin confirmed he was lying. They will lie and manipulate and ‘husband’ swore on his dads life because he knew that this would be believed by me in his warped cocaine addled brain.
I wish you well at this awful time.