So true, honestly see the way my “husband” has been over the last 18 months is just shocking.
I tried writing him a letter last week explaining what the separation was doing to our kids (wasn’t aware how bad his coke use was at this point) and he still didn’t seem to care.
I think it changes their emotional state, they don’t “feel” properly if they aren’t on a high so in comparison real life isn’t enough for them anymore. I just feel like if that’s where his head is at right now, surely it can only get worse as he’ll start using more to continue the highs?
Just glad I found this forum as i at least can see the situation for what it is now instead of kidding myself he’s just going through a midlife crisis.