My sister is an alcoholic. She used to blame anyone but herself for drinking anything that she could get her hands on. Her husband, her friends, me if I argued with her in fact any body.
She used to say she hadn’t got a problem and alcohol services were of no help what so ever. She could not hold down any job as she couldn’t cope.
Only her husband making her leave the marital home worked. After losing everything, no husband, no family. no home. no money, no car just a bin bag full of clothes did she turn the corner.
AA is the only thing that worked, she’s had a few relapses buy feels much better without the drink.
You have gone above and beyond with your son, and have been supportive but we can only take so much. It’s his choice to drink and only he can stop. Like in my sisters case she had to chose in the end and chose wisely.
I wish you well.