I asked my “husband” to take leave over the holidays to help with childcare. Previously I’ve usually covered this all myself, taking unpaid leave if needed as I’ve been able to rely on his wage bit being as we are now seperated I cannot afford to do this – I explained this to him at the start of our separation.
Anyway he got quite nasty, can’t understand why he should have to do it when I told him I wasn’t sure why it was an issue asking him to take time to spend with and care for his children, he told me I was poisonous and that I am feeding the kids sh*t about him and turning them against him (in actual fact I am doing the complete opposite).
I’ve read on other posts about addicts becoming angry/aggressive so I’m just wondering what people’s experiences of that are, is the nastiness and lack of care and empathy yet another effect of cocaine, does it affect them even when it’s been a few days/weeks/months since they have last taken anything? Or is it a possible indicator that he had taken more recently in which case I fear the problem is already getting worse (despite him yet again telling me he doesn’t do it that often). I’m already apprehensive about the kids being in his care and I certainly don’t want them around him if this is progressing from social to more regular use!
Also keen to know of any articles others have read about the effects of cocaine on emotions as struggling to find much on it. And what classes someone as an addict/occasional user/social user – when is it a problem!!?
Sorry for another long post, just still trying to get my head round a lot of things!