Thanks, I’ll have a look on Amazon!
I’ll also look into the emotional stages. I’ve been trying to read up on everything as much as possible but sometimes I feel like I’m hitting a wall a bit with it.
I gave him the benefit of the doubt for such a long time and let him convince me that it was a rarity when it’s come up in the past, partly because I’ve never taken it myself or been around people who do so I’ve never fully understood it. When he’s gone out week after week in the past I just thought he was being selfish putting his mates and drinking ahead of the kids, but now looking into it more and looking back on everything he ticks so many boxes:
He has frequent episodes of headaches
Sinus problems
Has had a few angry/nasty outbursts
Gone through periods where he says he’s not worthy of me, doesn’t deserve everything I do for him
Left because he was unhappy but has never been able to explain why
Its just so frustrating not being able to get all that through to him to get him to want to get help.
Our relationship is done now, with everything he has put me through I’m not sure I will ever be able to forget, but I just want him to get better for the kids sake, the impact him leaving is having on them is horrific and he just doesn’t seem to care.
Thanks again for your advice, and just for replying in general x