Hi, I am in a very similar situation. I have had 13 years of promises to stop: the birth of our second child, when he turns 40, after several new years and yet here we are and although he is not using as much as he used to, the fact is he still uses despite trying to convince me that he has it under control. Then after a while maybe a month or two he will go on full blown binges, alcohol cocaine weed the lot and spend ridiculous amounts of money which we haven’t got. When he hits a low, he will admit he cant control it but then when I suggest he gets professional help, he says he will and then eventually says it’s ok I can control it. He is in such denial and sometimes I think deep down he doesnt want to stop or at least that’s how it seems. I have walked out on him and gone to my parents with my children. Despite it now being about 7 weeks, he still hasnt seeked help and everytime we talk he blames me for him feeling down and lost without us around. He days he cant do it alone but then I have to remind him he couldn’t do it when we there either? I need to stop feeling sorry for him but how??
