Dfh thank u. It certainly helps to know I’m not the only one. The difficulty i guess is the not knowing what is going to happen. I feel lost and sometimes half the person I was, a bit like I have lost a limb. But you’re right, we didnt choose this and I feel for my kids as I never expected they would have to grow up in this kind of environment, least of all they would witness their parents split up. I do hope and pray its not permanent but it isnt looking good at the moment. Anyhow I decided I needed to do this for my children more than myself and I certainly wont be returning. If he wants to join us, he has to prove he has sought help and is no longer an addict. I am so glad I found this forum and plan to use it as much as I can. I am also going to look into al anon meetings, from what I have read, they can really help with trying to make sense of this difficult situation. And thank u, I will definitely take u up on the offer of an ear. Friends and family try to offer their support but they dont really understand what it’s like, not like us so same goes to u, I am happy to be there for u toowhenever u need to vent or share anything. Take care and i wish us both the best outcome whatever that may be x
