Hi Honey
Of course the little boy comes first. Him and my son were with me most of the weekend.
What I have put a stop to is picking him up once a week to look after him for the day.
The story behind that is that she has been offered alcohol support and rehabilitation.
So I took a full day off work once a week so she could go with a friend.
But that lasted about twice and she’s been using the free day to top up her booze.
That day is what I have put a stop to. As she is under orders from social services not to drink when she’s in sole charge of the little one, which is 9-5 weekdays.
My son is there the rest of the time and does the morning and tea and bedtime routine.
Not acceptable in any way shape or form.
But I am not going to look after little one while she stays at home drinking.
The friend I believe is the biggest enabler of her addiction.
My son is in a financial trap, does not even touch a drop and the only thing I have said (he is in his late twenties) is that I’m not going to make his mind up for him. But I am always here, there is a whole spare room made up and all the equipment a little one needs, high chair, cot, pram all to provide respite whenever needed.
But at the end of the day I have no parental responsibility, only they do.
I am also the single mum of another son, the uncle of little one, who has been too ill to attend school for two years now.
He is also a priority xx