No your ok you are not rambling.
Iv been through that stage with my ex husband who also is a cocaine user and alcoholic…
Don’t give them nothing and let them do whatever it takes .its not your problem .
Are you sure your son’s marriage didn’t fall apart because of his addiction.
My ex husband told his family I was abusive and physically and mentally abused him but the actual truth behind that was his addiction that used to cause all the problems